For Better or Worse
Every life has its ups and downs. With the nation in the sate it is, many families are having fewer ups and a lot more downs. We are lucky that lately we have had more ups than most. Other than a few little things that we managed to get past quickly, we have been doing well. We had one of those downs this past weekend, a BIG down. It was an eye opener, one that will make us push our plans back a few weeks, but it is nothing we can’t manage.
This stumbling block showed me something out the relationship my wife and I have. We have been through a lot in our life together, but we have stuck together through it all. The incident this weekend was one we thought we would never see, and both my wife and I took it hard. When we get frustrated at the world we sometimes use choice words. Words that we may regret later, and not everything cam be taken back once said or done.
I have seen some of my friends have knock-down drag-out fights over things we gone through. Of all the people I have known over the years, Teresa and I are the only two that are still together. I look back on everything we have gone through and feel lucky to have had Teresa with me through it all.
This weekend I was reminded of the vows many people take when they get married. One of those vows is to stay together through it all, the good and bad times. I realized that even with the bad times our life together has been great. Sure there are many things I wish had not happened, but there are many thing that I would not give up for the world. If we, like so many others, did not stick though the tough time, we would Never have had the good times.
When I thought about that today I started to feel sorry for those that gave up on relationships early on. I think about what we would have missed if we had not stuck with it. There has been times we have said the divorce word, but it never went past that. In recent years we have not spoken to each other like that. After this weekend I feel that I will always be together.
Remember to be honest with your significant other. Work through things, and talk it out Almost nothing is so bad that you can’t get through it together. Don’t dwell on the negative, remember the good times and the fact that there will be more.
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ciara Says:
it’s great that you and your wife are both committed to making your marriage work. often times it will only be one person who does because the other refuses to and that doesn’t work out too well. i should know, i was the one who wanted to keep making my 1st marriage work whereas my ex did not. i often get sad that i didn’t have one of those marriages that lasted for years. but then again, i can’t be sad all the time as i’m on marriage #2 and who knows, right?
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Posted on September 21st, 2009 at 1:04 pm
Zerzix Says:
I wish you well on you second marrage. You are right, it does take two to make one work.
Posted on September 21st, 2009 at 1:20 pm
Scott Says:
Although it’s always great to think of the good times, often those hard times bring us even closer.
As you said “almost nothing is so bad that you can’t get through it together.”
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Posted on September 21st, 2009 at 10:09 pm
Zerzix Says:
My main point in this is the “Together” part. Many perople I have known keep the ” yours and Mine” thing even after marrage. I feel that if people could get past the “Your and Mine” seperation of thigns and worked in the “Our’s” concept, they would be happier over all.
Posted on September 21st, 2009 at 10:13 pm