Having “The Talk” with our eldest
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It has come to about that time in life that we need to have “The Talk” with our oldest daughter. Until now we have not really had any sex talks with our children. Not that we have gone out of our way to protect them from it, it just has not come up. I do not think my parents ever gave me the talk.
With young girls it is much more important to have the talk earlier than with boys. There are thing girls have to deal with that boys never will, unless you count the running out to the store for “Supplies” when they get married. With girls starting their menstrual cycle as early as 9 -12 years old, we don’t want it to come as a surprise to her. I could not imagine what our little Drama Queen will do if she suddenly starts bleeding “down there” whit no idea what is going on. Of course I am going to let Terfer talk to her about the woman things, because I have no clue what she will be gating through. Thank God Terfer is here or I would be going insane about this topic.
The part I am more worried about is the one I will be taking part in, Sex. We are a Christian family and would like to pass on our family values to our children, and that opens a hole can of worms I just got flamed for on www.dad-blogs.com, relationship that are “More than just Friends.” Of course we want her to wait until she finds the person she loves, but let’s face it, that most likely won’t happen in this day and age. It scars me to think about that when she is only eight years old, but it is a fact of life.
With children being exposed to sex in music and movies at the rate they are these days, it is hard to avid the fact the children are curios. With the most popular music out right now being Hip-Hop, they are exposed to lyrics that are less than wholesome in many public areas. And we want to be sure they understand that a relationship is more than what they might hear in that kind of environment.
There is also the tween and teen “falling in love” we have to look forward to in the next few years, and I would like to let her know what a good relation ship is before she winds up in a bad relationship cycles. We also want her to know that we are here for her, no matter what happens, and so many things could happen, both good and bad.
Anyone got any interesting Ideas on how to approach the subject?
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BellaDaddy Says:
Our little girl is only 3, but considers herself a “Big Girl Diva, and Don’t You Forget It”…(her words)…therefore, I have no clue how we are gonna deal with this…so…waiting on you and your readers comment to help us out LOL
Kudos!
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Posted on November 20th, 2009 at 11:57 am
ciara Says:
they say that you should start talking to your child around age 8 about puberty. so you’re starting off on the right foot. the best way for you to start is to talk about it as it comes. don’t talk about sex until she asks some question relating to it. i know whichever way you do it, it will be the way that is right for you and your family. i had the puberty talk with all my kids starting at age 8 and every year after including more info each time. if they have a question, i answer it. it’s that open-door policy that i have going. hopefully the lines of communication are open enough at some point that she can come to you with whatever question she may have, and just remember to give them room to say what they want to say. if that makes sense.
btw i never got the talk either…all i got was, if you’re gonna do it, better have protection and that was in my late teens. oy! lol
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Posted on November 21st, 2009 at 4:33 am
Joeprah Says:
I think you should just be honest and take baby steps. The more you do it the better you will get and the more comfortable you will be. I would open with–what have you heard at school or from your friends about sex. Close with, our door is always open and if you ever have a question–ask. That’s all I got.
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Posted on November 22nd, 2009 at 7:13 pm